Thinking about an ex or an old falling out?

Have you been thinking about an ex? Or an old friend you no longer speak to? We're in a time (astrologically speaking) where old wounds regarding relationships are surfacing. The pandemic and a slower pace of life has given us pause to think about people no longer in our lives and for them to think of us too. Perhaps an ex has popped into your mind or you've come across an old photo or gift from a friend you're no longer in contact with. Or perhaps (as happened to me last week) someone from an old life walks past your house at exactly the moment you open the front door for the Tesco delivery 😂  Maybe you've even had someone reach out to you with an olive branch. I believe these old memories are coming up to:

1) Heal old pain if there are unresolved issues with that person or experience.

2) Show us how far we've come.

I know some people get worried that if you're thinking about that person or relationship it must be a sign to rekindle. Not necessarily. It may simply be a nudge from inside to complete any unfinished business. How you ask?

🆓 You may need to forgive the other person.

🆓 You may need to forgive yourself and who you were in that relationship/experience.

🆓 You may want to reach out to "bury the hatchet" or simply touch base and let them know you're thinking of them. 

🆓 You may need to apologise. 

🆓 You may need to declutter by throwing out physical things from that relationship or delete photos or emails etc. related to that time in your life. 

🆓 Or something else your intuition guides you to. 

Personally, I've been doing all of the above. I came across old emails from an account I don't use anymore. Read them, felt the love in them and then deleted and moved on. 

I also reached out to a couple of childhood friends who I'd fallen out with, AFTER I'd forgiven myself for what happened and forgiven them. I let them know I was thinking of them and wished them well. I know in my gut these people don't need to be in my life on a regular basis anymore, AND it felt good to complete, without bad feeling. A simple message here and a nice response back was all it took to lift the heaviness of a friendship I didn't even know I'd been carrying for 5 years. 

And in another case it took 2/3 hours on the phone to hash things out and speak our truth and listen to each other.

Having done the internal healing and then the external action (both Yin and Yang) brought me peace and understanding in both cases. When we don't communicate or have anything to do with that person, it's easy to compartmentalise them out of our minds. But underneath - usually at the emotional level - they are still there. And there's usually some form of hurt, upset, resentment, guilt or anger still present. 

I hope your relationships are great, but above all remember to keep nurturing the relationship with yourself - more on that next week. And, as always, support is here 💫🙌✨

With all my love,