Are you ON the rollercoaster or getting pulled INTO it?

Emotions are running high at the moment - both out in the world and at home it seems. It feels like one day can bring such a rollercoaster and you wonder - how did I get here? How did we go from there and end up saying/doing THAT?! What's curious to me is the difference between my own rollercoaster of emotions and when I'm getting sucked into someone else's emotional rollercoaster. Whether its a friend venting about politics and their pent up emotions about the state of the world - or a family member worried about getting Corona and their deep fear of suffering - it's so easy to get sucked into others' emotions and start riding the ride with them.

So why do we pull up a seat and join them? Because we love them? Because it's the polite thing to do? Because we don't want to be rude or be seen as uncaring? Maybe all of the above. And also maybe we don't realise we're getting in the chair next to them until we've gone up and down, been swept around and got to the end feeling wiped out and windswept!  

The key I found is to differentiate between what is yours and what is not. Easier said than done right? But the more you know YOURSELF the easier you're able to identify the emotions that aren't yours and when you've inadvertently strapped yourself into someone else's rollercoaster.

Also, notice patterns. You may find you repeatedly feel anxious or worried after spending time with a particular person or in a particular environment. Sometimes you may even repeatedly feel anxious or worried about a particular topic after spending time with certain people. So notice the patterns. And adjust accordingly. Spend less time in their company or in that environment as far as possible. Or if you have to be there see if you can excuse yourself when you feel things getting heated or that same topic arises (toilet breaks are ace :) And afterwards if you do feel you've been on their rollercoaster its ok. Not the end of the world. I see a lot of people beat themselves up about this (myself included) but it really is ok. You weren't aware at the time, it's ok. I teach clients to ground and cleanse their energy and emotions to release any negative effects of the rollercoaster ride :) The first thing you can do is bring your attention back into your body. And breathe deeply. This will immediately activate your parasympathetic nervous system. Then, my free calming meditation is great for clearing anything that isn't yours and bringing you back to centre. If you don't already have it you can listen by clicking here

 Free calming meditation

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Keep remembering your strength. As always, you got this. 

With all my love,
Chandrika ❣️